Wednesday, November 28, 2007

un Quote

On Humanity: Until the truth about our past is known, our future will forever remain in chaos.

Success to me is measured by the amount of sane moments that I experience. No achievement is greater than my sanity.

-unNaked Soul

I was having a conversation just yesterday, and somewhere along the line, she said "I will not do anything unless my boy friend approves..."

I asked "Are you saying that you don't have an identity of your own that you have to hid behind the shadows of your boyfriend?"

She said "Yes!"

I responded "Do you think your boyfriend would identify with you when it comes to making the same decision? In fact don't answer..."

I cannot understand a woman who has no identity of her own, especially when she molds her existence around another man. *sigh*

Heck! We all have our weaknesses, don't we?

May the universe give face to the faceless...

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27 Comments:

Blogger coco said...

i think a lot of men have no identity of thier own either and they just rely on their girlfriends

November 28, 2007 7:43 AM  
Blogger fantasy queen said...

thats why u see lots of girls totally wrecked after a break up, its sort of like starting all over again, theiring to find their selves.they build their world around and within an illusion of absolute perfection loosing their identity in the process....

November 28, 2007 7:56 AM  
Blogger Rayo said...

Hmm...this reminds me of that whole thing I wrote a coupla weeks ago about people needing to go into relationships as wholes rather than halves seeking their other half.

Clearly she's learned to become dependent on him, and I feel so sorry for her because she doesn't even seem to realize it.

November 28, 2007 10:55 AM  
Blogger Afrobabe said...

It's called LOve...

When she gets dumbed...It is called..eye opener!

That is when you see all the negatives the fool had in the first place...but ignorance in love is sweet...

November 28, 2007 11:20 AM  
Blogger Sherri said...

please o,
don't get me started!!

November 28, 2007 2:14 PM  
Blogger guerreiranigeriana said...

hmmnnn...sad, indeed...more people need sooooo much more personal work before jumping into a relationship...or when they emerge, they really need to do more self-evaluation and analysis...but what do i know about this relationship shit?...*scratches head and walks away*...

November 28, 2007 3:51 PM  
Blogger Jaybabe said...

I'm still thinkin'of what to say about this one. Ermmmm...okay where did it all start? Way way back, women relied too much on their husbands, cud not do anythin' b4 askin' him, cud not go anywhere unless he says so...well did that come with every generation there after? lemme see...partly yah, but mostly no. These days i think its just a few who say that kinda thing. We have greatly learnt thru makin' that mistake. Lets give ourselves a round of applause now. Please tell her to start identifyin' more with herself that her b/f. We've followed these people for way too long now.

Nice post btw...

November 29, 2007 12:57 AM  
Blogger CATWALQ a.k.a LAGBA-JESS said...

I am not getting on my soap box on this issue but I am reserving a space here with my comment...

nonsense!!!

BTW: what did u ask her? if she will do a threesome? cos i know u could do such a thing

November 29, 2007 1:03 AM  
Blogger princesa said...

That girl needs some good talking to. Refer her to me dude.

November 29, 2007 4:19 AM  
Blogger pamelastitch said...

Thank you my sister...!!!

You said it all...

Okay, once upon a time, I used to be a dumb sheep - I grew out of it with a quickness...

There is nothing healthier than being in a relationship in which you are both individuals and you both respect each others individuality....

LOL!! Don't let me get started oooo!!

November 29, 2007 4:34 AM  
Blogger UnNaked Soul said...

@coco: I've seen a few

@fantasy queen: word!

@rayo: *wink*

@afro babe: LoL.. it is?

@sherri: please do... LoL

@guerreiranigeriana: what do we know? LOL

@jaybabe: *wink*

@catwalq: haba catwalq! why you wan naked my for blogville?

@princesa: LoL... ok

@pamela: LOL... please do. :-D

November 29, 2007 5:56 AM  
Blogger Ms. emmotions said...

i simply can't understand what it is that makes a woman loose her identity or even decide to drop her identity for a man's. its sad

November 29, 2007 6:21 AM  
Blogger Aijay said...

Loads of women are dependent on their men.
Too bad cos when its over, its a different story.
This babe obviously needs a lecture.

November 29, 2007 6:40 AM  
Blogger Queen of My Castle said...

Afrobabe said it best. When most women love they give their all and hold nothing back, initially. Once we've been hurt we become more aware and bit more cautious.

November 29, 2007 6:49 AM  
Blogger Afrobabe said...

How else can u give ur all if not ignorantly...Play the fool,close ur eyes to the negatives unless they are glaring...love like there is no tomoro..there is always time to hate when u come down from the high...I try not to hate...seperate with mutual respect then u can remain on talking tems if not friends...

November 29, 2007 7:22 AM  
Blogger simplynuttie said...

She is just too ignorant... maybe due to the happenings around her.

Giving your all doesnt mean you shouldnt be independent.

You only give your all to make the relationship better...
give your all to make the sex sweeter...
give your all to make the food more delicious...
give your all to earn his respect...
give your all to even understand yourself better...
give your all to understand him...
give your all to help him understand you better...

not to be a dumbfool!

November 29, 2007 7:39 AM  
Blogger Teediva said...

this happens all the time. sometimes we do it to give our men a sense of power and still go ahead and do what we please anyway.

November 29, 2007 10:11 AM  
Blogger Isi said...

er....women do this, i've seen a zillion cases. it happens all the time! they NEED to show the bros that they love him tooooooo much. it never works. but she hasn't commited a crime, so i'm just going to say: 'let her play the game the way she likes'

November 30, 2007 5:22 AM  
Blogger Arewa said...

OK THIS GIRL HAS ISSUES....

November 30, 2007 10:11 AM  
Blogger kokolette said...

Issues!
shoo? what kina life is that...I'm afraid to know but how old is she?

November 30, 2007 12:53 PM  
Blogger Bubbles said...

I guess it probably has to do with the role models in her life, or how she was raised. I could think of a bunch of reasons y she would be that way, low self-esteem, insecurity? To each his own.

By the way, it took me a while to figure out that u were a guy. I was confused, had to read a lot of ur old posts to figure that out.

December 01, 2007 4:02 AM  
Blogger ibiluv said...

is she above 18?she sounds reallly stupid!!!!in this century??????gimme a break......

December 01, 2007 12:56 PM  
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December 02, 2007 7:56 AM  
Blogger Atutupoyoyo said...

Unfortunately as far as many men are concerned this is the perfect women that you have just described. The universe operates on the laws of supply and demand. As long as there are women willing to supply these false affectations then there are many men that will continue to demand this in a partner.

December 03, 2007 6:17 AM  
Blogger Olamild said...

I've got nothing to say than
I've got my own identity
Can't nobody tell me what to do with my life.

December 03, 2007 11:47 AM  
Blogger Kafo said...

success is measured by the number of sane moments.

I CONCUR.

now on to this lady or should i say girl cuz no lady would cease to exist as an indivdual in order to please another, one must ask does she have a backbone and does she love herself or know her worth or is she an empty vessel looking to be filled and fulfilled by another.

just wondering

now u have mii thinking

December 03, 2007 12:21 PM  
Blogger Onome said...

hmmmmmm............

December 04, 2007 5:52 AM  

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