Sunday, January 20, 2008

unComplicate This

We forgive so that we may be forgiven... to each action its own consequence... we shall bear our burden by ourselves, we only hope to be good and keep doing what we do: Mistakes. - unNaked Soul

How do a young man like me (a reflex flirt) prove his LOVE to a young woman?

How do you manage information sharing with the one you've chosen to LOVE?

Is there any similarities between a LIE and unCompleted Information Dissemination?

What is the chemical composition of the element Tr (a.k.a TRUST)?

I am terrible when it comes to the politics of LOVE. It is more intense than running for United States Presidency.

P.S. This is very Naked. No Joke. No Game. I want answers.

On the lighter side: I had the weirdest dream last night. I was to donate my heart to the one person I do not know. I voluntarily offered to. I consciously offered to die. Now that's scary. I hope am not going to die soon. *sigh* Just in case, who wants a heart?



Blogger desperate lady said...

I do!
Will be back to answer those questions.....let me think about it and I'm 1st.......yaaaaay!

January 21, 2008 3:37 AM  
Blogger Naija Chickito said...

Are you in love or are you just fooling around?:)

January 21, 2008 4:41 AM  
Blogger Hengish said...

Seriously DL how do you manage to get to people's posts before I can say Mississippi.

Thanks for stopping by my post UnNaked.

When you find the answer to those question please abeg post them up.

Maybe the dream isn't about literally giving your heart away more like giving your heart in terms of love or mushy feelings.

January 21, 2008 4:54 AM  
Blogger desperate lady said...

O Naija chickito just said ma mind. Yup dude, r u in love or r u just fooling around?

January 21, 2008 6:34 AM  
Blogger Olamild said...


Well to answer your first question.

Actions speak louder than words. When you find love and u know it's for real, u have to be willing to let go of somethings. If u cant help but flirt with others even when Madam is around, u just have to remind urself of one or two things that shows she means more to you than whoever you're staring it = keeping your eyes on her full time.

LIE and UID = the same thing my brother
There's no such thing as a big lie or small lie. Liar na liar jare.

hmmm TRUST

Add Tolerance to hot Romance believing that when she's not near, she's thinking of U and be very Supportive when things go rough. Scaling through those rough times is what makes u know u r meant to be Together. lol...just kidding

Love is a very tough issue like you've said but we all are capable of giving it. You might not be as bad as u think u r in this love case o. When you start to care more about the person's well being than u do u, u r dangerously in love lol.

Who's the lucky sistah?

January 21, 2008 7:03 AM  
Blogger UnNaked Soul said...

No fooling around...
this is issue deeper than universe. seriously.

January 21, 2008 7:08 AM  
Blogger guerreiranigeriana said...

great questions...i am a questioner, so don't often have answers...although i too believe that withholding/excluding/forgetting to disclose certain information is the same as lying...

...interesting dream, in light of your questions...i think i fall in with hengish's interpretation of your dream...not literal heart donation, but more symbolic...interesting that the heart donation meant death for you...wonder what your real thoughts are regarding love...what it means to you...good luck;)...

January 21, 2008 7:14 AM  
Blogger Bubbles said...

Nobody wants a heart cos u need it for urself. No dying jokes, pls. Those are scary.

January 21, 2008 7:32 AM  
Blogger sweetpea said...

I have been contemplating those exact same questions recently. When I'm with someone, I think they believe my sincerity, but keep asking for more proof that feelings are real. They want more proof expressed in emotions.

Which makes me think... If you can't recognize the realness in my heart, you have a distorted and romanticized opinion of what real love is. LOL, I know that doesn't answer your question. Know that you're not alone.

Now about that heart dream, I've had similar dreams and waking thoughts of that, but my recent reactions are the exact opposite! It would please me to death to give my heart to someone for them to live. As India Arie says: I am ready for love.

January 21, 2008 7:37 AM  
Blogger bumight said...

I think I have the perfect answer to your question:
they try to make me go to rehab, but I say...yes, yes, yes

January 21, 2008 7:58 AM  
Blogger Rayo said...

Q: How do a young man like me (a reflex flirt) prove his LOVE to a young woman?
A: By flirting only with her and making sure that it's genuine.

Q: How do you manage information sharing with the one you've chosen to LOVE?
A: Very carefully. Tend to ramble on and on about nonsense when we are in love.

Q: Is there any similarities between a LIE and unCompleted Information Dissemination?
A: Yes, just because you didn't tell the complete truth, it doesn't mean you're lying. [See: Information Sharing]

Q: What is the chemical composition of the element Tr (a.k.a TRUST)?
A: Fear, audacity, and patience

January 21, 2008 1:01 PM  
Blogger Afrobabe said...

someone's in loveeeeeeeeeeeeeee

January 21, 2008 2:28 PM  
Blogger La Reine said...

When you find out you'll share the wealth right?
Cuz the answer to those questions is wealth for sure.

January 21, 2008 4:20 PM  
Blogger diary of a G said...

yo ma brotha! you didn't answer my question from your last post

and whats really good? cos I heard you not keeping it real with a curtain sista of mines I happen to u claim to be in this post

brotha man lemme me find

January 22, 2008 2:55 AM  
Blogger diary of a G said...


January 22, 2008 3:06 AM  
Blogger ayodeji said...

Let me start by saying this has been a mistery since the dawn of man/woman for generations,unNaked.Proving love is very evasive and very much dependent on the woman in question(there is no garden variety formula that fits all, has more to do with her understanding of love,if she considers lavishing of material wealth as a measure then thats your meter;if she wants your emotional and vocal understanding and attention then thats your meter;if her sexual appetite is off the charts then your sexual prowess will be key on your meter,but more often than not most women fall under the emotional and vocal understanding category,if u are sensual to a woman consistently she will open her heart for sure.
For LIE and unCompleted Information Dissemination,a LIE is a direct negation of the truth(an event or happening or occurance) in question while the latter is an event or happening that would otherwise be truth if the account is completed in its entirety.
As for TRUST,there is no chemicals involved here but if we are trying to understand it,then trust is the relinquishing of your inhibitions that would otherwise prevent you from sharing your emotions,fears,history and everyday encounters with someone else(your lover),humans aspire to trust(its like faith);trusting is not a logical equation because logic demands that u fortify yourself and keep your defences up at all times and not drop your guard because human beings are unreliable but faith(love) demands you trust(relinquishing of your inhibitions that would otherwise prevent you from sharing your emotions,fears,history and everyday encounters with your lover) before your love can bear fruit(in simplest terms open your love flower and recieve his pollen i.e. have kids and start a family,another circle of trust)

January 22, 2008 3:11 AM  
Blogger Fo said...

i got a heart i'ld pass :D
nd the love part...sori not buyin it...*walks out

January 22, 2008 4:55 AM  
Blogger 30+ said...

@Unnaked - aaheeww, love. There is no end to this LOVE thing sha.

The basic element is Truth. truth revealed when the Truth reciever is ready. Followed by Hope, hope that the reciever trusts that all you said is just that (face value).

The fundamental/foundation though is God.


Ultimately Man (i.e. male/female) is weak we often need a stronger entity to mediate.

I also mostly agree with Rayo's comment, not sure about the flirt side of it though.

January 22, 2008 5:42 AM  
Blogger Onome said...

omo no jus try am oooo..u cant leave me here(hmm!!) on a serious note take am easy...u're not going to die u're going to be just fine!!
PS dont look at me for asking myself dose very questions.

January 22, 2008 5:46 AM  
Blogger anonymous gal said...

i want your hat. sounds like it would be a nice one.pls o dont die.

January 22, 2008 6:21 AM  
Blogger CATWALQ a.k.a LAGBA-JESS said...


Unnaked: How do you prove your love for her? be the best you can be and aim as high as u can to make her happy. Telling her is ok but u've got to show it.
Be yourself

January 22, 2008 6:27 AM  
Blogger Mr C said...

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January 23, 2008 1:33 AM  
Blogger Mr C said...

1. Proving ur love to a young lady without sounding cheesy at this age can be a hard one. I think the best way is just to get her have confidence in what you say (by living up to your words on very minor issues). This could make your words have a resounding impact.

2. Information sharing.. tough one. Just hang with those ur are compatible with. Thus, you wont have to "manage information sharing". You will just share it.

3. I don't think they are the same thing.

4. Trust: This is to develop a conviction that an individual will act in a certain way under available circumstances. Thus you can trust different people to different degree depending on how close you are to them, and their personal configuration.

January 23, 2008 1:41 AM  
Blogger little miss me said...

ha!another dreamer like interpretation...coming soon.i want a heart though,just incase mine gets lonely :)
now to your questions:how do you prove your honest,open and sincere about how you feel.
question on information sharing: be wise but honest.
question on lying:absence of total truth=lie.
chemical comp of Tr:Lo(love) + Un(understanding) + H (honesty)= Lo.UnH, IUPAC name=Trust,Tr.

love is complicated,don't even try to understand it you'll just have a headache,just enjoy whatever it is you feel.
+ i hope you take rejection well though cos they are two sides to every coin,she either smiles or kicks you in the goodluck Mr unNaked.

January 23, 2008 1:43 AM  
Blogger UnNaked Soul said...

Thank you all so far... very much appreciated

January 23, 2008 3:48 AM  
Blogger Arewa said...

My prayers have been answere ooohhhh.Thank
Just let go and Be yourself and treat your woman the same way you want to be treated.
Theres nothing to be scared will be fine dear.. nuff love x x x x

January 23, 2008 9:16 AM  
Blogger iheuko said...

unNaked, lemme use this joke to probably alert you of what the result my be... that is if its get to the resultant effect while i try to figure out a solution for u!

ready for it...?

here it comes..

This is what a guy wrote to our systems analyst
(Marriage Software Division):

Dear Systems Analyst,

I am desperate for some help! I recently upgraded my program from Girlfriend
7.0 to Wife 1.0 and found that the new program began unexpected Child Processing and also took up a lot of space and valuable resources.

This wasn't mentioned in the product brochure. In addition Wife 1.0 installs itself into all other programs and launches during systems initialization and then it monitors all other system activities.

Applications such as "Boys' Night out 2.5" and "Golf 5.3" no longer run, and crashes the system whenever selected. Attempting to operate selected "Saturday Rugby 6.3" always fails and "Saturday Shopping 7.1" runs instead.
I cannot seem to keep Wife 1.0 in the background whilst attempting to run any of my favorite applications. Be it online or offline.

I am thinking of going back to "Girlfriend 7.0", but uninstall doesn't work on this program. Can you please help?


Dear Customer,

This is a very common problem resulting from a basic misunderstanding of the functions of the Wife 1.0 program. Many customers upgrade from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0 thinking that Wife 1.0 is merely a UTILITY AND ENTERTAINMENT PROGRAM. Actually, Wife 1.0 is an OPERATING SYSTEM designed by its Creator to run everything on your current platform.

You are unlikely to be able to purge Wife 1.0 and still convert back to Girlfriend 7.0, as Wife 1.0 was not designed to do this and it is impossible to uninstall, delete or purge the program files from the System once it is installed.

Some people have tried to install Girlfriend 8.0 or Wife 2.0 but have ended up with even more problems. (See manual under Alimony/Child Support and Solicitors' Fees).

Having Wife 1.0 installed, I recommend you keep it Installed and deal with the difficulties as best as you can. When any faults or problems occur, whatever you think has caused them, you must run the.........

C:\ APOLOGIZE\ FORGIVE ME.EXE Program and avoid attempting to use the *Esc-Key for it will freeze the entire system.

It may be necessary to run C:\ APOLOGIZE\ FORGIVE ME.EXE a number of times, and eventually hope that the operating system will return to normal.

Wife 1.0, although a very high maintenance programme, can be very rewarding.

To get the most out of it, consider buying additional Software such as "Flowers 2.0" and "Chocolates 5.0" or "HUGS\ KISSES 600.0" or "TENDERNESS\ UNDERSTANDING 1000.0" or even Eating Out Without the Kids 7.2.1" (if Child processing has already started).

DO NOT under any circumstances install "Secretary 2.1 " (Short Skirt Version)
or "One Nightstand 3.2" (Any Mood Version), as this is not a supported Application for Wife 1.0 and the system will almost certainly CRASH.


will be in touch soonest...

January 23, 2008 10:01 AM  
Blogger fantasy queen said...

hey, i need re-enforcement, we need to do something about DL always being at the top of the comment page...damg girl...

somebodies in lurvvvvvvv, no?
no worries, u'd find the person whos laps ur hearts to fall in.

January 23, 2008 1:48 PM  
Blogger Afrobabe said...

mennnnn are ayodeji and iheuko related????

Whats with the post like comments?????

Get a headache just looking at it...

January 23, 2008 2:30 PM  
Blogger princesa said...

Dude..its okay to be in love.Let your self go and be sincere/faithful you reflex flirt,lol!

On that dream, i agree with others, its not physical death but a symbolic giving of ur heart(falling in love).

No similarity btween a lie and unCompleted Information Dissemination. Sometimes, we hoard some info so as not to hurt other people...its better than telling lies

January 24, 2008 1:39 AM  
Blogger Toochi said...

za noble one:D
knows best.
but not this time.
never known him as the loverman.

January 24, 2008 6:08 AM  
Blogger AnyaPosh said...

The composition of TR. is simply HT + MS/ED.
That is, Honesty and elements of Mutual Sharing & Equal Devolution. You have to be honest with a person so that you can both become equally's as simple as that!

January 24, 2008 3:05 PM  
Blogger CATWALQ a.k.a LAGBA-JESS said...

lol @ Ihueko's comment

January 24, 2008 7:13 PM  
Blogger pamelastitch said...


I dont know if i trust this unnaked...

January 25, 2008 5:22 AM  
Blogger Ms. emmotions said...

u are in love ehen? wow !!! who is that lucky gal?

seriously, its no big deal, be urself and let see u as u are, love and wat to be done comes naturally.


January 25, 2008 8:21 AM  
Blogger Honeywell said...

1. join the league of reflex flirts!!! *jumps for joy* Urm, to be honest, i don't know.... by being the best he can be for her i guess.... for me in particular, being my friend first and lover later.....
2. This might be hard for people who find it hard to trust. Just say what feels natural to you, if it pertains to that situation and time... and if the information will not do ANYONE any good, then don't share it....
3.Yes, they both involve deceit of some form.
4. Vulnerability, faith and hope that one will not be let down.
As for the heart dream, abeg don't die oh, i can't shout.... But maybe it means you might give your heart to someone (lovewise) soon...

January 25, 2008 11:35 PM  
Blogger Defining Truth Betold said...

Q. How do a young man like me (a reflex flirt) prove his LOVE to a young woman?
A. How would you want her to prove her love to you if she was the "reflex flirt"?

Q. How do you manage information sharing with the one you've chosen to LOVE?
A. By communicating. Letting them know everything (big and small) from the start. It gets easier after then. I think its important to just pretend that your partner is your best friend. Do you not tell your best friend(s)everything?

Q. Is there any similarities between a LIE and unCompleted Information Dissemination?
A. Yes. They're both meant to hide information that is known to be pertinent.

Q.What is the chemical composition of the element Tr (a.k.a TRUST)?
A. Tr: Cm-Su+Cn (communication - Suprises+ continuity)


January 26, 2008 4:26 AM  
Blogger Sha said...

LOVE? *sigh

January 27, 2008 10:34 AM  
Blogger Waffarian said...

You are making everything too complicated. But then again, perhaps it should be.I don't think you can ever "prove" your love to anybody and I don't think you should have to. However, if you are doing things to make her think you do not care or love her,stop it. I think you already know what you're doing but you want to continue and then justify doing it by proving your love. It ain't gonna work.(Na my own psychological explanation, I might be wrong).

As for trust, I base it mostly on character and not on love. The mutherfuckers in my life have been mostly the ones with fucked up characters as well. Ex: liars....they will always fuck you up.

If you do not want to tell somebody something then, do not. Let it be the truth or let it be. The half way thing does not work, been there, done that. Now I just say "I AM NOT TELLING YOU, LET IT GO"

All that shit about telling each other everything....I don't get it (na my own take oh...abeg)it is your experience, you can bury it if you want or shout it out loud, the point is, you can do whatever u want with your shit.

As for love... na pure luck, norring else!

January 30, 2008 5:00 PM  
Blogger theicequeen said...

me me me!!! pick me! i need a heart, gimme the heart..

taking into consideration the fact that ive been labelled "heartless" my one of my closest guy friends....see? so gimme! i need to know what it feels like to have one..muahahahaha

and youre in loooovveeee....*sings cheekily* unnnaked and sumbody, sittinin a tree...K-I-S-S-I-N-G!!

February 09, 2008 11:45 AM  

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